Sunday, August 12, 2012
Abilio's View: People need to socialize, why?
Abilio's View: People need to socialize, why?: As I sat at Bill's the other night I wondered, why do people find a need to go out of their circle to socialize? Considering we are born alo...
People need to socialize, why?
As I sat at Bill's the other night I wondered, why do people find a need to go out of their circle to socialize? Considering we are born alone, why do we as adults socialize sometimes in large numbers? Robh and I sat and discussed this and we arrived at the following reasons!
First socializing is a learned behavior!
Reason for socializing:
Loneliness (number one cause of death)
Get laid (picking up a trick)
Friends drag you out (not a social person)
A reason to drink (join AA)
To relive memories
All of the above
What was I doing at Bill's? I was having beer which I don't particularly like anymore and thee is no-one besides Rob I would be there for. In addition I am in pain whenever I go out ! So what brought me to Bill's?
Sometimes I feel I need to address the need Rob is 10 years younger than me and he still has needs to socialize. After all he grew up in a social setting always out and about with his friends doing sometimes things that young people should shun! Sometimes I too get lonely and maybe just maybe we can meet a friend or two while at a function such as Bill's! This has a 90% odd against you!
We did it again last night! We went to Miami Beach for Rob's high school reunion and no-one showed up! So we made the best of it and spent some quality time together which could of been better spent at the beach nearby!
Don't get me wrong I am a social butterfly, but as I age I wonder why when people seem to be self centered and ignore those no longer in a social setting such as work or involved in a business!
So next time you find yourself out look around and ask youreself, why am I here?
Chat soon!
Dr Q
First socializing is a learned behavior!
Reason for socializing:
Loneliness (number one cause of death)
Get laid (picking up a trick)
Friends drag you out (not a social person)
A reason to drink (join AA)
To relive memories
All of the above
What was I doing at Bill's? I was having beer which I don't particularly like anymore and thee is no-one besides Rob I would be there for. In addition I am in pain whenever I go out ! So what brought me to Bill's?
Sometimes I feel I need to address the need Rob is 10 years younger than me and he still has needs to socialize. After all he grew up in a social setting always out and about with his friends doing sometimes things that young people should shun! Sometimes I too get lonely and maybe just maybe we can meet a friend or two while at a function such as Bill's! This has a 90% odd against you!
We did it again last night! We went to Miami Beach for Rob's high school reunion and no-one showed up! So we made the best of it and spent some quality time together which could of been better spent at the beach nearby!
Don't get me wrong I am a social butterfly, but as I age I wonder why when people seem to be self centered and ignore those no longer in a social setting such as work or involved in a business!
So next time you find yourself out look around and ask youreself, why am I here?
Chat soon!
Dr Q
Friday, August 10, 2012
Abilio's View: A world without sex!
Abilio's View: A world without sex!: It's been a subject I hold dearly to my heart! I know the biblical reason for sex (to bring people into the world), but why did the creator ...
A world without sex!
It's been a subject I hold dearly to my heart! I know the biblical reason for sex (to bring people into the world), but why did the creator introduce so much pleasure in a sexual experience? Is it possible to have a world without sex?
The answer is yes, the probability is NO!
Let's discuss; sex is a way to connect! Some people feel as one, some people it's just sex! Some people sex is not important it's the emotional connection! Some people are self centered and just want to fulfill their individual needs and some just need the company and sex is becomes part of the moment and some are personal satisfaction and once satisfied it's either n ext or get out!
Some people are just happy with someone and months if not years can go without having sex! This is a highly level of relationship (love) most people don't understand! his raises the question, does sex have anything to do with love? Since there are various levels of love I would say, NO!
One loves a brother sister and mother they love friends and some even acquaintances yet do not have sex with them! So why do couple put so much emphasis on sex when they fall in love! Why does society make it seem if you're not having sex everyday you're relationship is not working! And more importantly if you and you're partner like having sex with others, why does it seem that one feels not loved?
I believe we are taught that sex is a must if you're in love! You may see it with you're parents! You may be told by others as you grow, you may have heard of the many fabrications of love and sex! What is the truth and reality though? This is based on every individuals beliefs and needs!
I will not discuss my feeling since they are well defined in my relationship, but I have always believed sex is a must for love! However since sex is 2% of you're relationship I would value the 98% more and work on the sex issue if one existed This is where society goes wrong!
More emphasis is put on the 2% than the 98% causing divorces in America at 52%! Most relationships if not all start falling apart because of sex challenges! So next time ask yourself and discuss it with you're partner whats important and is 2% worth losing you're relationship, or is 98% worth saving!
We are by definition sexual creatures, so to a happy sex life!
DR Q
The answer is yes, the probability is NO!
Let's discuss; sex is a way to connect! Some people feel as one, some people it's just sex! Some people sex is not important it's the emotional connection! Some people are self centered and just want to fulfill their individual needs and some just need the company and sex is becomes part of the moment and some are personal satisfaction and once satisfied it's either n ext or get out!
Some people are just happy with someone and months if not years can go without having sex! This is a highly level of relationship (love) most people don't understand! his raises the question, does sex have anything to do with love? Since there are various levels of love I would say, NO!
One loves a brother sister and mother they love friends and some even acquaintances yet do not have sex with them! So why do couple put so much emphasis on sex when they fall in love! Why does society make it seem if you're not having sex everyday you're relationship is not working! And more importantly if you and you're partner like having sex with others, why does it seem that one feels not loved?
I believe we are taught that sex is a must if you're in love! You may see it with you're parents! You may be told by others as you grow, you may have heard of the many fabrications of love and sex! What is the truth and reality though? This is based on every individuals beliefs and needs!
I will not discuss my feeling since they are well defined in my relationship, but I have always believed sex is a must for love! However since sex is 2% of you're relationship I would value the 98% more and work on the sex issue if one existed This is where society goes wrong!
More emphasis is put on the 2% than the 98% causing divorces in America at 52%! Most relationships if not all start falling apart because of sex challenges! So next time ask yourself and discuss it with you're partner whats important and is 2% worth losing you're relationship, or is 98% worth saving!
We are by definition sexual creatures, so to a happy sex life!
DR Q
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