Thursday, April 26, 2012
Abilio's View: Mom was right! Everyone carry's their baggage!
Abilio's View: Mom was right! Everyone carry's their baggage!: This morning I awoke dreaming of my mother. I would imagine this will go on either until I lose my mind or I die. But this is not the reas...
Mom was right! Everyone carry's their baggage!
This morning I awoke dreaming of my mother. I would imagine this will go on either until I lose my mind or I die.
But this is not the reason for this blog! I have been one to entertain hundreds of people at times. It was always fun to work hard to entertain people, give away t-shirts and at times trophy's for the fastest runners to the best people in our life.I just enjoyed this with my x-wife and with Rob!
But my mom was right! As she attended these functions, she always pulled me aside and said enjoy them for the DeSousa's as they age stop entertaining and rather be entertained! Actually she said we tend to shy away from people and become unsocial! Well the time has arrived!
I don't know why! I have this desire to entertain and then comes the what I call (bullshit), and I cancel and head somewhere with just Robert!I guess as we age, we get tired of people in general! They have baggage and I don't have the time to carry it!
Simply put, if you can leave the drama or as I call it, baggage at home I am happy to entertain you! But that being said, in this complicated world everyone carry's their baggage wherever they go!
Enjoy,
Dr Q
But this is not the reason for this blog! I have been one to entertain hundreds of people at times. It was always fun to work hard to entertain people, give away t-shirts and at times trophy's for the fastest runners to the best people in our life.I just enjoyed this with my x-wife and with Rob!
But my mom was right! As she attended these functions, she always pulled me aside and said enjoy them for the DeSousa's as they age stop entertaining and rather be entertained! Actually she said we tend to shy away from people and become unsocial! Well the time has arrived!
I don't know why! I have this desire to entertain and then comes the what I call (bullshit), and I cancel and head somewhere with just Robert!I guess as we age, we get tired of people in general! They have baggage and I don't have the time to carry it!
Simply put, if you can leave the drama or as I call it, baggage at home I am happy to entertain you! But that being said, in this complicated world everyone carry's their baggage wherever they go!
Enjoy,
Dr Q
Saturday, April 21, 2012
Abilio's View: Time's most infuencial people 2012
Abilio's View: Time's most infuencial people 2012: I have always been amazed who is on this list! Don't get me wrong I understand why some of these people are influential. however Time forget...
Time's most infuencial people 2012
I have always been amazed who is on this list! Don't get me wrong I understand why some of these people are influential. however Time forgets that most American's will never meet these people amd so thought they may influence our life's one way or another the real influential people are closer to us!
We cannot, and I say cannot forget those that really influence us and in the process makes us better human's, better neighbors, better father's, mothers and so on! Let me give you an few example",
My Mother: Though she is gone her words remain permanently engraved in my mind! What she taught me about the world, how she felt about my partner and her love for the family makes her the most influential person in my life!
My Uncle:In 54 year I have never heard my uncle bad mouth anyone! He is always positive and even when facing some challenging family issues he is always smiling and doing his macho, I will never age twist!
My best friend: He is always positive, calls at the right moment! He is always there and at times when I felt there was no reason for living, he was always there with some type of encouragement, pushing me to move forward.
My cousin: Well she is just that little bit of religious person we all need in our life! Just enough to shoe she cares by praying for you, but never in you're face about it. She is always positive and like her father never has badmouthed anyone in my presence.
My partner: Well he is the epidimy of goodness! He is why I find joy in life. Always positive even when I know things are not going his way or the right way! He is kind, supportive, empathetic and loving!
There are so many others! So as you read these list of influential people that may never impact you're life, look around for those that do everyday of you're life!
Dr Q
Chart soon!
We cannot, and I say cannot forget those that really influence us and in the process makes us better human's, better neighbors, better father's, mothers and so on! Let me give you an few example",
My Mother: Though she is gone her words remain permanently engraved in my mind! What she taught me about the world, how she felt about my partner and her love for the family makes her the most influential person in my life!
My Uncle:In 54 year I have never heard my uncle bad mouth anyone! He is always positive and even when facing some challenging family issues he is always smiling and doing his macho, I will never age twist!
My best friend: He is always positive, calls at the right moment! He is always there and at times when I felt there was no reason for living, he was always there with some type of encouragement, pushing me to move forward.
My cousin: Well she is just that little bit of religious person we all need in our life! Just enough to shoe she cares by praying for you, but never in you're face about it. She is always positive and like her father never has badmouthed anyone in my presence.
My partner: Well he is the epidimy of goodness! He is why I find joy in life. Always positive even when I know things are not going his way or the right way! He is kind, supportive, empathetic and loving!
There are so many others! So as you read these list of influential people that may never impact you're life, look around for those that do everyday of you're life!
Dr Q
Chart soon!
Thursday, April 19, 2012
Abilio's View: When you have the best!
Abilio's View: When you have the best!: We recently because of continued billing issues changed our cable TV from Verizon FIOS to Brighthouse and it lasted 2 weeks! Why? I mean we ...
When you have the best!
We recently because of continued billing issues changed our cable TV from Verizon FIOS to Brighthouse and it lasted 2 weeks! Why? I mean we had Brighthouse for years before we changed to FIOS! It is actually very simple! We hate to downgrade!
Recently Rob and I have been looking for a house in Orlando with no avail. You see we can;t downgrade from what we have. Wether it's TV, House. Music player etc humans have a difficult time downgrading unless there is no other option!
This is also applied to friendship, sex, and even other relationships. It's applied to restaurants, food, drinks and on and on! We hate to downgrade. In every aspect of our life's we humans, once we taste the good life or new technology we are captured. It's what marketing uses to get us to be in long lines when something new comes out! We embrace new concepts, ideas and gadgets as we do friends and partners.
I can't say it's right or wrong! But don't take my Galaxy Tablet, my new Galaxy android or my Verizon FIOS!
Chat soon
Dr Q
Recently Rob and I have been looking for a house in Orlando with no avail. You see we can;t downgrade from what we have. Wether it's TV, House. Music player etc humans have a difficult time downgrading unless there is no other option!
This is also applied to friendship, sex, and even other relationships. It's applied to restaurants, food, drinks and on and on! We hate to downgrade. In every aspect of our life's we humans, once we taste the good life or new technology we are captured. It's what marketing uses to get us to be in long lines when something new comes out! We embrace new concepts, ideas and gadgets as we do friends and partners.
I can't say it's right or wrong! But don't take my Galaxy Tablet, my new Galaxy android or my Verizon FIOS!
Chat soon
Dr Q
Monday, April 9, 2012
Abilio's View: "If only you knew mom"!
Abilio's View: "If only you knew mom"!: Patti La Belle one of the greatest singers ever to exist and someone I would love to meet sings a song by that title! Sometimes we wait to...
"If only you knew mom"!
Patti La Belle one of the greatest singers ever to exist
and someone I would love to meet sings a song by that title! Sometimes we wait
too long to say "if only you knew", how much I love you!
It doesn't matter
today how often I remember telling my mom "how much I loved her" it
seems it wasn't enough! Its that feeling I am dealing with today! We say
"I love you so quickly that do we actually listen and siphon the words
"I LOVE YOU"!
"I", you're persona, you're entity, you're heart you're being
, yes I loved you mom!
"Love",
this is used so frequently we forget what love truly means! Love is
patient, love is kind. It does not envy, it does not boast, it is not proud. It
is not rude, it is not self-seeking, it is not easily angered, it keeps no
record of wrongs. Love does not delight in evil, but rejoices with the truth.
It always protects, always trusts, always hopes, always perseveres. This is
familiar to all believers and non-believers!
Love is like air. You can't see it, but you can feel it. But
more importantly, LOVE makes that person important and
it's absence unbearable! This is why humans have difficulty losing
someone they love. A piece of themselves is missing! They are never whole
again!
"You", well you is an individual! A
special love designed, nurtured, practiced for that entity! Usually another
human, but can be a pet or just about anything living you have become attached
to. However in a human sense, it takes greater meaning !You yes, just
you!
And so today , I can't stop thinking,
did my mother "know just how much she meant to me"!
I left her February 2nd, I kissed
her, said I LOVE YOU as usual never anticipating as I looked in the rear view
mirror as she went with her walker to get the mail, that it would be
my last view of the woman that meant the world to me!
My mom was more than a mom! She was my dad and
my friend! My mother knew things about me I have yet to discover!
With my mom went tradition, values, virtue,
unconditional love, wisdom and my very close friend.
For some reason, I needed to tell you that
today Mom!
Chat soon,
You're son! Dr Q
Saturday, April 7, 2012
Abilio's View: Swayed by beauty! Make prison wear famous!
Abilio's View: Swayed by beauty! Make prison wear famous!: What has happened to our society! Today it seems how you dress or don't, how you act or don't and even excuses from abuse to everyone else d...
Swayed by beauty! Make prison wear famous!
What has happened to our society! Today it seems how you dress or don't, how you act or don't and even excuses from abuse to everyone else did it, gets you out of a mess. We as a society have become so visual, that sometimes the obvious gets blurred!
One can think of OJ Simpson, Michael Jackson and so many others that get their way by either how they act or dress! You want a day off show up dysfunctional with you're sleep wear! You want to get off the glove don't fit! I have my opinions om both of these and many others but judges and jury are swayed by what I call very expensive props!
The sad thing is we are Americans or even the world get caught up in this nonsense! I read about a dozen magazines from glamour (Rob is a make-up artist) to Newsweek and Time and I like reading the nonsense but try to get to the meat of a story so I may read one or two paragraphs, the rest is an opinion or propaganda! Being 54 I can tell the difference!
I always wonder why we are swayed by beauty. I tend to be disgusted by beauty and swing to that kid or family that seem to be wearing the last good garment they own! Often with beauty comes stupidity or the blond curling her hair with her finger as if she left her brain at home! Some of these women hold empires and are very intelligent! I am not picking on blonds, for after all there is always Palin to prove me wrong!
I will discuss men on another blog but they too use props to sway the justice system and it seems we love a good/bad story!
How about this, next time someone walks into a court for something they do, we strip them down wash their makeup off and give them jail uniforms. This way the justice system sees them as they are, criminals!
Chat soon
Dr Q
One can think of OJ Simpson, Michael Jackson and so many others that get their way by either how they act or dress! You want a day off show up dysfunctional with you're sleep wear! You want to get off the glove don't fit! I have my opinions om both of these and many others but judges and jury are swayed by what I call very expensive props!
The sad thing is we are Americans or even the world get caught up in this nonsense! I read about a dozen magazines from glamour (Rob is a make-up artist) to Newsweek and Time and I like reading the nonsense but try to get to the meat of a story so I may read one or two paragraphs, the rest is an opinion or propaganda! Being 54 I can tell the difference!
I always wonder why we are swayed by beauty. I tend to be disgusted by beauty and swing to that kid or family that seem to be wearing the last good garment they own! Often with beauty comes stupidity or the blond curling her hair with her finger as if she left her brain at home! Some of these women hold empires and are very intelligent! I am not picking on blonds, for after all there is always Palin to prove me wrong!
I will discuss men on another blog but they too use props to sway the justice system and it seems we love a good/bad story!
How about this, next time someone walks into a court for something they do, we strip them down wash their makeup off and give them jail uniforms. This way the justice system sees them as they are, criminals!
Chat soon
Dr Q
Tuesday, April 3, 2012
A View From Two Queens: The past 60 days without MOM!
A View From Two Queens: The past 60 days without MOM!: Well Bette Midler has a remake of a song appropriate for these notes, it's called, "Hello In There"! It's a song about life and getting ol...
Abilio's View: A note to my mother!
Abilio's View: A note to my mother!: The past 60 days without MOM! Well Bette Midler has a remake of a song appropriate for these notes, it's called, "Hello In There"! I...
A note to my mother!
The past 60 days without MOM!
Well Bette Midler has a remake of a song appropriate for these notes, it's called, "Hello In There"!
It's a song about life and getting old! It's appropriate for eventually besides the hollow eyes we end up with and the sadness as we lose loved ones and eventually ending with us, we all have a responsibility to keeping an eye on the older ones as times takes their youth away!
I am in that cycle as was my mother before her death. Yes, I saw the hollow eyes and it was over! Lets all take time to say "hello in there" to everyone passing by but especially those up in years!
It's been tough mom! It's been lonely in Hudson! When you left the core fell apart!You would think one of us would of taken over from you, but that was not part of the plan! Everyone has their interest, their agenda and you kept us together somehow! I am sorry I could not be the one! I sometimes wish I was a core that kept a family together, but that's not my role in life it seems. I could keep a group of 500 people focused on a goal at work, but cannot keep a family of 3 together.
Rob and I bought a new car, we settled with the insurances and the two accidents. That in itself had it's challenges! Their is no money in accidents! When you get done you have bad health and nothing to enjoy life a little bit more!
One never plans for the death of their father and mother! I am glad I always saw you as if everyday was you're last and appreciated you as such! And even though we planned as such, the plan was not in writing and it fell apart!Sometimes I walk the block with Bette and I look for someone to say "hello in there"! But this is Hudson and most of the neighbors are looking for the same thing! So I reach out and in the process somehow help myself "in there"!
I see a therapist, but the economy or world in general is bad so he is also too busy to see me weekly! Now I plan ahead to see him but sometimes I am so sick I can't get out of bed. Doctor's have become a challenge, because I am a challenge!
Their has been rumor's of my various illness, but if people knew that sometimes the pain is loneliness! People don't realize "loneliness" is the number one cause of death in the world! It's a mental thing mom! We never could keep still! But in 60 days that has changed so much as you said it would! Leaving the house is a challenge! The thought of why, just why am I here, but to bother people is in my mind daily!
Well we will make it to the 90 days and then 6 months and no doubt a year! We have plans to go see the kids in Boston and if all works well Madeira so Rob can see where I was born! We do little monthly trips to nearby to keep me going. I live for Rob, the man you adored I adore also! Youre right mom, he is a keeper!
Love and missed you are!
You're son!
It's a song about life and getting old! It's appropriate for eventually besides the hollow eyes we end up with and the sadness as we lose loved ones and eventually ending with us, we all have a responsibility to keeping an eye on the older ones as times takes their youth away!
I am in that cycle as was my mother before her death. Yes, I saw the hollow eyes and it was over! Lets all take time to say "hello in there" to everyone passing by but especially those up in years!
It's been tough mom! It's been lonely in Hudson! When you left the core fell apart!You would think one of us would of taken over from you, but that was not part of the plan! Everyone has their interest, their agenda and you kept us together somehow! I am sorry I could not be the one! I sometimes wish I was a core that kept a family together, but that's not my role in life it seems. I could keep a group of 500 people focused on a goal at work, but cannot keep a family of 3 together.
Rob and I bought a new car, we settled with the insurances and the two accidents. That in itself had it's challenges! Their is no money in accidents! When you get done you have bad health and nothing to enjoy life a little bit more!
One never plans for the death of their father and mother! I am glad I always saw you as if everyday was you're last and appreciated you as such! And even though we planned as such, the plan was not in writing and it fell apart!Sometimes I walk the block with Bette and I look for someone to say "hello in there"! But this is Hudson and most of the neighbors are looking for the same thing! So I reach out and in the process somehow help myself "in there"!
I see a therapist, but the economy or world in general is bad so he is also too busy to see me weekly! Now I plan ahead to see him but sometimes I am so sick I can't get out of bed. Doctor's have become a challenge, because I am a challenge!
Their has been rumor's of my various illness, but if people knew that sometimes the pain is loneliness! People don't realize "loneliness" is the number one cause of death in the world! It's a mental thing mom! We never could keep still! But in 60 days that has changed so much as you said it would! Leaving the house is a challenge! The thought of why, just why am I here, but to bother people is in my mind daily!
Well we will make it to the 90 days and then 6 months and no doubt a year! We have plans to go see the kids in Boston and if all works well Madeira so Rob can see where I was born! We do little monthly trips to nearby to keep me going. I live for Rob, the man you adored I adore also! Youre right mom, he is a keeper!
Love and missed you are!
You're son!
Abilio's View: Remembering my mother
Abilio's View: Remembering my mother: Mother, as I walk through the journey of life, I remember. I remember how you helped me to grow with love, truth, and honesty. I remember...
Remembering my mother
Mother,
as I walk through the journey of life,
I remember.
I remember how you helped me to grow
with love, truth, and honesty.
I remember how you helped me to choose the right path
with values, morals, and self worth.
I remember how you gave me dreams
with hope and confidence.
As I remember,
I prayed to be a father like you were my mother,
to shape my children into strong adults,
full of hopes and dreams.
You made me who I am today,
and I will always remember you in life's passings
for no one could touch my life as you have.
as I walk through the journey of life,
I remember.
I remember how you helped me to grow
with love, truth, and honesty.
I remember how you helped me to choose the right path
with values, morals, and self worth.
I remember how you gave me dreams
with hope and confidence.
As I remember,
I prayed to be a father like you were my mother,
to shape my children into strong adults,
full of hopes and dreams.
You made me who I am today,
and I will always remember you in life's passings
for no one could touch my life as you have.
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