There is no specific right answer to this question. Not even people who have been together for 50 years necessarily had good relationships! Sometimes after being together for a number of years you just learn to live with each other. I have lots of examples in my family and inner circle that proves this. However that does not mean from their eyes they are not in a good relationship!
We all look at relationships differently. I am always mindful of the couple that has been together for over 50 years and you swear based on what you see and hear they don’t like each other until one dies! Usually it's followed by depression and death by the other person. Besides the fact they maybe had a good relationship, loneliness creeps in and then they pass away themselves.
My answer to what is a good relationship is very in tune with my business experience. People don’t look at relationships as a business and my x hated when I said that, but relationships are the biggest investment and partnership you will ever enter. It takes time to understand each other and co-exist with some harmony. And most important good or bad times should make your relationship stronger.
So here it goes:
Define expectations
Define roles
Set goals
Periodically review what works what does not
Never go to sleep angry
Love the person not the behavior
Work on changing behavior
Respect each other
Cherish each day with the person
Be family focused
Become one
Until we chat!
Dr Q
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