When to say NO! If you can't pay, don't play! "The Dark Side"!

From my experience and based on what I have seen and done in recent years there comes a time when you have to say NO! I am not talking about children or even teenagers, sometimes even though society tends to chastise them; it's the adults that need to learn when to say NO!

I have to include along with my experience those that I have personally had to either walk away from, chastise myself or we lost contact because they ended up in rehab or jail.

I thing humans like the rest of the animal kingdom at times do things that are fun but not necessarily accepted by some. Its here I say, those that have an addictive personality need to learn the word "NO".

Some people can go into the world of heavy sex, alcohol binges, drugs and other vices and walk away and either try it again months or years down the road and there are those that once they start they can't let go. It becomes their life and everything, work, family and friends rotate around that vice.

I always caution people I have encountered through the years that if you have a an additictive personality they either need to learn how to say "NO" or stop associating with those that don't let an activity run their lives. It's easy to say than to do! So what I have learned is to know my friends and associates good enough, so I can say no for them when encountered with such situations.

Sometimes it does not work! We have this very close friend that is like our son and when he is around us, he can't say "NO", we can't say "NO" and it becomes a miserable situation and sometimes an embarrassment to us and our friends and family. Out of all the drugs in the world the one I used to love! The one my dad died of! And the one I abhor around me is a drunk!

People have the power to say no, no matter what drug is your demon! But first you need to like and/or love the people around you enough to know that addition affects them more than you. In time you end up alone like my dad who died at an age of 42 all by himself on a running ditch.

So if you can't pay, don’t play! I was happy to have found a man that assisted me with my demons and me with his so that I am still here at 52. And though at times we may temporarily lose our balance, it's always under control with the slogan "if you can't pay the price, don't play with the drug! Analyze you behavior after and listen to those around you and make changes.

Everyone likes to as Star Wars puts it "go to the dark side", but when you do have the path to return to the good side and when necessarily say "NO" if you know you’re an addictive person. Don't play with the Dark Side, many never come back!